I’ve learned a lot about letting go over the last 11 years. One of the many benefits of addiction recovery is the non-stop self-improvement. I’ve learned to let go of anger and resentment, guilt and shame, things I can’t control and habits, behaviors and beliefs that don’t serve me.
It’s a process, of course. No matter how much work I do there will always be more stuff to let go.
Currently, my focus is on letting go of “hows” and outcomes. These are big ones that go back to trying to control shit which goes back to (of course) FEAR.
Fear is most often the root source of shit we struggle to let go. It happens with relationships, jobs, etc.
The thing about resentments and limiting beliefs is we aren’t always aware of them. We usually know when we are struggling with letting go of a crappy job or a bad relationship, but we don’t always know when we need to let go of beliefs or resentments. That’s because half the time we aren’t even aware of them. They are like a program running in the background that slows down your system.
Limiting beliefs, resentments, guilt, shame and the like will suck the joy out of your life. You’ll find yourself feeling short-tempered, insecure, impatient and run down.
What Happens When You Let Go?
Imagine if you filled a backpack with rocks and just went about your life, carrying it around. You carry it to work, to drop the kids off at school, on dates and to the beach. Wherever you go, the rocks go. After awhile, you get used to the load, but it slows you down and makes shit way less fun.
Now, imagine taking the rocks out, one by one. Each step of the way, your load lightens. Finally, you take the pack off and dump out what’s left.
You go on your merry way, lighter than ever.
What Are You Carrying?
The load sneaks up on you. You may not realize that you are carrying the extra weight because you are so used to it. Resentments, guilt and shame accumulate over time. You might recognize the telltale signs: Irritability, being short-tempered, fatigued, experiencing a lack of interest, feeling overwhelmed, unsatisfied, restless and down.
*Keep in mind that these signs are also indicative of depression and anxiety.
Often, though, these are simply signs of unaddressed “stuff” that slowly wears you down and sucks the joy out of life. When you let these things go, you free up space for joy, freedom and ease. These draw in more of the juicy goodness you want in your life. Abundance, fun, love and light. These are what we’re here to experience.
How Do You Let Shit Go?
The first step is to identify the outdated, limiting and negative junk in your brain and body. From there you must make the conscious decision to let these things go. You’ll notice resistance because there is a part of you that wants to hold on to it. The letting go process doesn’t happen overnight. But once you finally DO let it go, you’ll find that you not only feel better, but you start attracting new and exciting opportunities in your life.
You’ve made room for them!
What do you need to let go of? Leave me a comment!!!
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